personal topics

For workshops, keynotes, and presentations related to people’s personal lives, these are some possible topics:

  •  Relationships
    • SIEF for Couples and Families: Who in your family is intensive?  Who is expansive?  Which one are you? How does this affect your expectations of each other, your planning styles, your rest/relaxation styles, and the ways in which you work together? Do you have a family culture of making one or the other orientation wrong?  Is your family as a whole intensive or expansive? How about your families of origin? How can you reconfigure your family life to better fit everyone’s styles and meet everyone’s needs?
    • SIEF for Lovers: Are you the same?  Are you different?  How do you make decisions?  What is frustrating?  How does knowing your SIEF score and that of your lover(s) change your approach to one another?
    • SIEF and Family of Origin: Was your family of origin intensive or expansive?  What did that mean about family norms and behaviors?  What other factors might complicate the situation?  Did you match the family SIEF orientation?  How about that of the people with whom you were closest?  Were you accepted?  Were others?  What did you learn about yourself and the world from the way your family behaved vis-a-vis SIEF orientations?  How does that affect the way you interact with the world now?
    • SIEF for Dating: What’s your SIEF score?  What kind of SIEF orientation are you looking for?  Are you sure?  Why?  What did past relationships look like through the SIEF lens?  What kinds of SIEF characteristics are you most craving?  Which ones feel like the worst fit?  How can you tell what someone’s score is without making them take the assessment?  What are your personal red flags?
  • Personal
    • SIEF for Personal Development: What is your SIEF score?  Are you okay with that?  Where has that served you well?  Where has it gotten in your way?  What stories do you carry about your SIEF orientation and others like you?  Have you squished or fried yourself in order to avoid rejection or to achieve success?  In what ways are you spending energy fighting your SIEF orientation?  What would happen if you could use your SIEF orientation instead of fighting it?  How might you do that?
    • SIEF for Job Searches: So you’re looking for a new job or career: do you want an intensive or an expansive role?  What comes easily?  What doesn’t?  How hard would it be to cross over and do tasks that are outside your SIEF comfort zone?  How hard would it be to be surrounded by people who don’t match your SIEF orientation?  What kinds of indicators should you look for in job descriptions and interviews to better assess the SIEF match?  What might you negotiate for to get a better fit for a pretty good job?